Have you ever been accused of talking too much? Or perhaps you have been around someone who thinks they are a well of knowledge and you just do not wish to dip into that well, but cannot get away? Now, we all know that there are people who have the propensity to communicate more than others. It is just their nature. The question is whether or not it is from the natural man’s desire to be heard or from the spiritual man’s desire to impart wisdom into the hearer’s ears.
As God’s Children, we need to think about how others perceive us when we are talking to them. Too much – Too little? It is not wrong to share your knowledge of the things of God, Yet, often we share too much. How can you share too much? It is when we are not discerning how much to share, we just want to unload the cart all at once. An overload of the good news spoken at the wrong time can cause a person to feel overwhelmed. We have to think that those we are speaking to may be lost, babes in Christ, immature or mature and then discern how we are to speak.
In Hebrews we find a passage that indicates that people are at different levels of receptivity to the truths that are in the Word:
“For though by this time you ought to be teachers, you have need again for someone to teach you the elementary principles of the oracles of God, and you have come to need milk and not solid food. For everyone who partakes only of milk is not accustomed to the word of righteousness, for he is an infant. But solid food is for the mature, who because of practice have their senses trained to discern good and evil.” Hebrews 5:12-14
We need to have discernment when we speak to others by asking the Holy Spirit to reveal to us the maturity level of those we are speaking to.
It is very important to know this, because if we follow the Holy Spirit’s lead in a conversation, then we will speak as David spoke: ”
Like apples of gold in settings of silver Is a word spoken in right circumstances.” Proverbs 25:11
Also, it is important what we speak and when we speak. Scriptures says:
“A man has joy in an apt answer, And how delightful is a timely word!” Proverbs 15:23
It may be said that most people do not intend to muddy the waters of a conversation, but it happens. So, what does one do to deal with that natural inclination to speak in a conversation? Stop! Look! Listen! Then pray for wisdom so you will not cloud the issue, but instead bring clarity! Easier said than done, but it is the truth.
Have you ever drawn water from a well or from a running stream of water? It is so important to not stir up the bottom: Why? It causes the water to become muddied, unclear, and basically unfit to drink. That is the case of our speaking at the wrong time. We just stir things up with our conversation rather than speaking words that have clarity of purpose and speaking them at the right time.
Listen to these Scriptures for they are good to have in the back of our minds when we are tempted to speak too much and to have as a reminder of how to speak in a conversation.
Ephesians 4:29 “Let no corrupting (worthless conversation) talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
Psalm 141:3 “Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips!”
Friends, let’s encourage one another with our words in conversation but be wise with the words we share. Be sensitive to the leadership of the Holy Spirit and you will find yourself speaking less, and the words you speak will have a purpose at the right time.
There are no better words on this topic than those of Paul when he wrote,
Ephesians 4:29, “Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
As we move about in this world, among the lost, the saved and in our places of worship, let us have Paul’s words come alive in our hearts and minds “but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, that it may give grace to those who hear.”, before we engage in speaking to others.
May our Father always use you to speak at the right time, right words, so that you can witness His work in the lives of others.